A case incredible in its cruelty. Two teenagers nearly killed a teacher and several students.
On the website of the Investigative Committee of the Perm Territory, there is a terrible message: in the morning of January 15, two schoolchildren fought in one of the city’s schools. They did not find out the relationship with their fists: one brought nunchaku with him, the other grabbed a knife. It is not customary to search students at the entrance, because they are their own. But in vain.
A teacher and several children tried to intervene in the fight. The woman and one of the students who tried to stop the fight are now undergoing surgery: they were seriously stabbed. Several more schoolchildren were taken to the hospital with less serious injuries: the brutalized teenager was waving a knife to the right and to the left. The witnesses to the fight are in a terrible shock. And the parents have one question: why did the children attack each other? Why did the battle go for life and death? Why is there so much aggression and cruelty in adolescents? And most importantly: who should have noticed it?
Forensic psychiatrist, doctor of medical sciences and professor of psychiatry Mikhail Vinogradov believes that the roots of the tragedy originate in the families of boys.
Everything that children have, good or bad, originates from the family. We need to figure out what kind of families the teenagers have.
We do not yet have an answer to this question. But what if the families seem to be doing well? After all, no one would have thought that the guys were capable of throwing out such a thing.
Even if there is a mom and a dad, if they are both good people and get along with each other, they can not give the child something. First of all attention. Come home from work – busy with household chores. Cook dinner, finish the report, relax at the TV. And the children don’t care. Its deficiency is the main problem in modern families.
According to the psychiatrist, parents underestimate the role of live communication with the child. But this is not difficult: just 5-10 minutes of a warm, confidential conversation is enough for a child’s soul (a teenager is also a child) to feel calm.
Pat the child, hug, ask how you are, not at school, but just like that. Parental warmth warms children’s souls. And if family relationships are good, but formal, this may also be a problem.
And as for the one who should notice the first shoots of cruelty and aggression in a child … Of course, the role of the family is also important here. It is clear that the parents themselves are not professionals; they cannot recognize where the norm is, where the pathology is. Therefore, the child must be shown to a specialist, even if there are no visible problems. School psychologist? They are not everywhere. And he is unlikely to provide an individual approach to your child, he has too many wards.
At the age of 12-13, it is necessary for a psychologist, not a psychiatrist, to talk to the child. This is necessary in order to reveal all his innermost desires. Aggression is characteristic of absolutely all children. It is important to direct it in a positive direction.
At this age, children undergo hormonal changes in the body. Aggression may already be at a quite adult level, the child’s brain is not yet able to cope with it. Therefore, adolescents are often advised to be sent to sports sections: boxing, hockey, aerobics, basketball. There, the child will be able to throw out energy without harming anyone.
Children calm down. The release of energy occurred, it was constructive – this is the main thing.
And if you miss this time and the child still went all out? Is it too late to rectify the situation?
In this case, going to a psychologist is no longer just necessary, but a must. Correction of behavior can take about six months. 4-5 months if the child makes contact. And up to a year – if not.