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How to deal with a child’s tantrum – personal experience
Every mother probably faced a spontaneous scandal. It is really difficult to calm a child down when it’s not even clear what happened.
However, the reasons for the hysteria are no longer so important when it is in full swing. One thing is really important here – to calm down the screaming (in the most inappropriate place, of course) baby as soon as possible. And at this time the whole shopping center will be staring at you (clinic, playground, amusement park, continue yourself).
, a blogger and journalist, decided to summarize her own experience, which often saved her in a confrontation with her kids. Now they have already gone to school, and this is a completely different age, a completely different story. “Hopefully I can come up with something as effective as they get through their teens,” says Katherine.
And here, in fact, and her advice. Just keep in mind: they have some humor in them. A good mood also helps to cope with hysteria.
1. Always keep crayons or crayons in your bag.
Buy them, steal a free kit from a cafe, or steal from your doctor. Tell your child that he can paint the entire table (just remember to put a large sheet of paper on it). This may well take the baby for a very long time. In any case, this method has saved me more than once in the queue to see the doctor. Want to paint on the wall? Let it go. After all, it’s the doctor’s fault that you had to wait so long. Even if he paints himself. Crayons can become antennas and turn you into aliens, mammoth tusks, blasters – whatever. Even if he shoves the crayon into his ear or nose – you’re already at the doctor’s office.
Children are still monsters, whatever one may say. But they can be appeased. Bribe. I always kept M & M’s in my bag and in my car. When my daughter was three years old – the most hysterical period, I bribed her. If she didn’t want to leave the playground or some other interesting place, I would whisper in her ear: “Let’s do without tears, and you will get M & M’s in the car”. And you know, it worked every time. Okay, except when I had to pull it out of the mall by throwing it over my shoulder. And a couple more times. In any case, this method worked more often than not. If you still think bribes are bad, convince yourself that M & M’s can be used to learn how to count and learn colors. And chocolate improves your mood.
Lovely capricious don’t want to eat potatoes for dinner? OK. No problem. Psychologists unanimously say that if a child does not want to do something, he needs to offer options – those that are guaranteed to suit you. I have modified this advice. Offer them a choice: “Will you be potatoes or rutabagu?” No child in their right mind will eat something unfamiliar and with a scary name. Besides, it’s very funny how they try to pronounce the word rutabaga. Yes, nobody really knows what it is. But if a child does ask to see the rutabag before agreeing to potatoes, find the nastiest-looking product in your refrigerator and offer it to your picky gourmet.
“MAAAAAMAAAAA! KUPIIII! ” I can see, I can see how your face is distorted. It is actually very scary when a three-year-old begins to whine at the whole store, begging for the hundredth toy / fashionable bauble / expensive designer (underline the necessary). When my son started such a performance, I would say, “Okay, my dear boy. Let’s put this on our wishlist. ” And photographed the object of his desire. Oddly enough, but it satisfied the tomboy. In addition, this method is great for choosing gifts when you catch yourself at the last moment. We just look at the photo on the phone, order it, part with the money. Instead of painful memories: “What did he want there?”
5. Put a lollipop in the medicine cabinet. No two
Seriously. Let it be sugar-free, if that’s so important to you. But this is really a first aid element. The lollipop in the medicine cabinet will definitely make your baby smile. And, importantly, it will take his mouth. And you don’t have to ride next to the scream queen, who practices horrific screeching. And don’t forget about yourself. Put in the medicine cabinet something that always helps you to calm down personally.
In general, here they are – five tips that worked (and more than once) for Catherine. They may look naive and stupid, but why not give it a try?