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The rules of education of Milana Kerzhakova
The wife of Zenit footballer Alexander Kerzhakov Milan gave birth to her son Artemy in April this year. And he also brings up four-year-old Igor – the son of her husband from Ekaterina Safronova (the boy’s mother was deprived of parental rights. – Approx. Wday). Milana, 24, spoke about her parenting experience.
“There is no need to bring up children”
Many parents think: they read the notation to their child, checked the diary, scolded him for deuces – that’s it, the upbringing was successful. But Milana Kerzhakova is sure that moral teachings like “I must study only perfectly well” have nothing to do with education and fly past the ears of a child with a whistle.
“I think there is no need to educate children. “Not to say nasty things, not to pull girls by the bows” – commonplaces. The postulates are much more belligerent, of the type: “one marriage and for life”, “for theft – I will kick out of the house” and all the other resulting Komsomol convictions of my youth are useless.
Milana is sure: children look at their parents and imitate them in everything. And if words are at odds with deeds, then any notations will definitely be in vain.
“And they are looking at us. At the way we shout, locked ourselves in the room, sorting out the relationship, at how we sit with a bottle of beer on the TV at the next talk show, at our swear words, for the inability to control our emotions and aggression, for the lack of desire to develop – and now it is these things that form our little child with you. And not just some moralizing, school, environment … This is all the same, of course, but to a lesser extent, ”Milana is sure.
“I believe that 90% of a person is his family,” writes Kerzhakova.
Good or bad, it is the manners and behavior of the parents that children copy. Of course, education plays a role, as well as the desire of parents to realize themselves. And if parents want their child to become an interesting person, they should first of all become such themselves. To develop all his life, to become better, then the child will have such a need.
“Raise Yourself, Not Children”
Parents should always remember that they are an example for children. And if the example is good, then the children will grow up to be worthy people. Therefore, it is worth starting education from yourself, looking at yourself from the outside, through the eyes of your child. And then “they will certainly and always thank you for the opportunity to call you their parents with pride, as I proudly call mine.”
Education, as she understands it, for Milana “is the transformation of a little man into a bright thinking head, into a person with his own aspirations, with love for development and work. And for objective reasons, he cannot know a better example, except for his own parents. Hence my simple conclusion – parents, first of all, should educate and educate themselves, and then only the child. “
Milana’s followers on social media generally support her. But other examples are also given.
“There are exceptions, I know several people from drinking families who, looking at their parents, said: it will not be like this in our family. And these are very educated people, professors, with wonderful families, loving children and a wife. And there are children of very famous people, where the parents are very good, hard-working. Daughters-in-law still love their mother-in-law and communicate, and sons (although they are 30-45 years old) are absolutely incapable of having normal families, because they can neither work nor support a family and still live on money from wealthy parents. “.