Yazhmat: how to behave correctly with a child

It turns out that there is a whole list of things that a good mom will never do in her life. So – God forbid! – not to embarrass the peace of those who at that moment were next to her.

And I did it all. And if necessary, I will do it again and again, while I am responsible for the life and health of my son. Although, apparently, I came across smart and delicate people – I have not heard any frank negativity in my address.

At 3-4 years old, the baby walks without diapers. But he still cannot endure as an adult. This is 100 meters to the nearest cafe or shopping center – okay. And a lot for a kid. In addition, children at this age usually begin to ask not when they are just a little impatient, but when they are simply unbearable. And either go to the bushes now, or there will be a disaster. I am for the first option.

By the way, I wanted to ask all the indignant: and when you go to nature all day, do you culturally tolerate home? How did your own mothers cope? About 30 years ago, it was not easy to enter a cafe just like that.

Wherein: I never put a kid to write in the middle of the sidewalk, yet there is a line between arrogance and necessity. And “in a big way” in the bushes, too, did not take. Although in this moment, I probably would not judge either. Situations are different, and what is there, “behind the scenes”, we do not know.

On the plane, in the park, in the bank, in the RONO, in the lobby of the sports school, waiting for a senior from training, and even – oh, horror! – in the cafe. She gave her breasts not only to feed, but also to calm her down. And what are the options, if you leave the baby at home with no one, and the public institution works only at a certain time, which will not adapt to the feeding regime. And the birth of a baby is not at all a reason for his parents to forget about a joint vacation outside the home. All over the world, mothers and fathers go everywhere with their little ones, and only we have a young mother – a person who should sit at home and not stick out. Well, I do not!

In this case,: I always had a thick shawl with me, with which I could cover myself and the child. I tried to sit with my back to most people. I didn’t arrange feeding demonstrations, and I don’t really understand those who do this either.

This happened several times. I asked when the “stars converged” in three conditions: I had no more than 3-4 purchases (for example, I ran out of water, I had to buy a child to drink, and there were a lot of people at the checkout), while the buyers had full carts in front of them, and my son for some reason, he began to be capricious. She apologized, explained the situation. Units refused. For the sake of fairness, I will note: I was offered to skip the line, when I did not even ask for it. Most often, pensioners are distinguished by such kindness, by the way.

Wherein: I stopped this practice when I was three or four years old. And she herself began to miss moms with younger babies. Never demanded or insisted. To swear at a person who has refused – God forbid, this is his right. Politeness is our everything.

And I also walked with her along the narrow sidewalk and took the elevator. Excuse me if I interfered with anyone, but: 1) the stroller is a child’s means of transportation, there are no others; 2) I am not responsible for the design of the territories, and I also do not like that narrow sidewalks are made along the houses. But I’m not going to go out on the road to let someone pass; 3) the dimensions of the elevator do not depend on me either, I will not even go up to the third floor on foot with a baby carriage; 4) sit at home and wait for the husband to finish work and bring food – no comment; 5) public transport – it is public transport that is designed for all members of society. By the way, sometimes I even asked the men to help put the wheelchair on or off the bus. And more often she didn’t even ask, they themselves offered help.

Wherein: there is actually nothing to add here. Unless, if I accidentally hooked on someone, I always apologized.

And I still sit down, subject to availability. And I even always paid and pay for the second place. Therefore, I don’t even react to rudeness from the series “he goes for free, he’s also settled down”. Again, you do not know the situation why the mother allowed the child to sit down. Maybe before that, they walked for three hours, maybe they are going from the doctor, from the training, where he gave all the best for two hours. You never know situations. After all, a child can also be very tired.

Wherein: if I allow him to sit on the bus, it does not mean that I am raising an ill-mannered boor. In the filled transport, if there are no other empty seats, it will always give way to the elderly, pregnant women, mothers with babies in their arms. True, one “but”: if they do not start to scandal in advance. I’m not so white and fluffy, but a person who has the strength to claim a place for himself will find strength and stand up.

Throw your slippers at me, please, as much as you like. But until a certain age I will not let the boy go to the men’s room alone. I’m not talking, of course, about a teenager during puberty. But a preschool child – for sure. And even if dad goes with his daughter to the women’s toilet, I don’t see anything wrong with that. You don’t lower your pants in front of the booth, do you?

Wherein: if we are walking with dad, the boys, of course, go to the men’s room. Recently, I have been trying to avoid such situations altogether, or to look for places with children’s toilets.

Because I just didn’t have other topics for conversation at that moment! My world was focused on the baby – I was with him around the clock, every day, without days off and holidays. First! I had never dealt with kids before: I had so many questions, so many incomprehensibility! How else can I get urgent answers to them? Of course, ask more experienced moms.

Well, hormones made themselves felt. At that time, my vocabulary was only: “we ate”, “we pooped” and “we slept.” Everything passes, and it will pass – be patient.

Wherein: I still tried to filter my speech and spare the ears of my still childless friends. But the word “we” has survived in my speech. Because if I say that the verse “we have learned,” then it is so.