TV presenter Irena Ponaroshku shared her upbringing secrets.
The parent is always right. If the parent is wrong, see point one. Usually the whole system of education is based on these two whales. It is called an authoritarian style. It is, of course, very convenient: mom / dad said the child did it. Unconditionally. If he was guilty, or the parents believe that the baby was guilty, he is punished. And the child understood what he was being punished for, whether he realized what his mistake was, is the tenth thing. But obedient.
Psychologists unanimously say: the authoritarian parenting style is not so good. After all, you run the risk of growing a personality without your own opinion and with a minimum reserve of decisiveness. And they recommend another – authoritative. This style lies in the fact that you are an example for the child to follow. And he is an equal person for you. With his own opinion, but an insufficient supply of everyday experience. This style seems to be professed by Irena Ponaroshku.
“I have mastered a new mum’s skill here: to ask my son for forgiveness. Somehow it never occurred to me before … For example, for not controlling the volume of the sound and yelling. Or she inflated a plot for a social drama out of a trifling offense – this happens to me too, ”the TV presenter repented in her Instagram.
Recall that Irena is raising her son, six-year-old Seraphim. And he faces exactly the same problems as ordinary mothers: he is looking for a speech therapist, thinking about who her son will become, and quoting his pearls. Or, like now, he shares the secrets of upbringing.
“It turns out that if you ask for forgiveness, the #I’motherMother mode immediately turns off, the feeling of guilt pulling on your chest passes, the tense atmosphere in the house is discharged, tenderness and warmth return … bulging eyes, not for the essence of the claim. From the series “Sorry, I had to explain all this to you calmly! I realized, I admit, I will improve, let’s hug! ” – Irena explained why she suddenly made such an unusual conclusion – not even for the sake of the baby, but for herself.
Interview
Are you apologizing to your child?
Of course, if I’m wrong, I’ll apologize
I try to control myself so I don’t have to repent
Rarely. Only if my mistake is obvious
No. Mom’s authority must be unshakable