First, for the sake of freedom. Leaving fear in the past means becoming freer, getting rid of the burden that prevents you from living happily. Everyone has a dream, the path to which is blocked by fear. To let go of fear means to untie your hands on the way to it. Freed, you will get the opportunity to do what you used to be afraid of!
Secondly, for the sake of health. To stop being afraid means to reduce stress. If you are often afraid, then your nervous system and psyche are overstrained – this can lead to illness. When the psyche is filled with fear, you are in a state of looking for danger, and if this is repeated often, it can cause panic attacks or a nervous breakdown. It is enough to stop being afraid, and the nervous system will stop wasting psychic energy, then the power that was spent on fear will become available for something useful.
Third, for positive self-esteem. When you conquer fear, the right thoughts are formed in the subconscious: “I am strong”, “I am a winner”, and the consciousness receives the experience of overcoming, which gives rise to the belief that you can cope with internal negative emotions.
Finally, for the sake of a strong character. Conquering fear builds character. If you can overcome one fear, then you can overcome the rest. It is easier for you to cope with trials.
And now let’s see what are the ways and techniques of getting rid of fears.
1. Find some reasons to deal with fear. These reasons will give you strength in the fight and become the foundation of your victory. For example, if you love to travel but are afraid of flying, the desire to go to new distant places will be your number one reason. The second will be the ability to move around the world freely and save travel time.
2. Describe the fear. Since time immemorial, man has been most afraid of the unknown. Therefore, learn about your fear all. Define your fear clearly. Write it down in detail on a piece of paper, draw it and say it out loud – materialize it as much as possible in a safe form. And then find all the information about it. In half the cases, this allows you to completely dispel it, or at least reduce it.
For example, if you are afraid of big spiders, you should know that they are found only in the Amazon jungle, and you will understand that the probability of meeting them in Moscow is extremely small. And when you learn that spiders prefer to flee when a person approaches, calm down even more.
3. Find out the reason for the fear. The easiest way to deal with fear, the cause of which you know. Then it is enough to eliminate it, and fear can weaken or disappear altogether. If the cause cannot be found, then the fear is subconscious, and this is an occasion to engage in self-examination more seriously or even turn to a specialist in working with phobias.
An example of conscious fear is the following case: in childhood, a boy was pushed into the water, and for a minute he choked until he was rescued. Since then, he is afraid to be in the water if he does not feel the bottom.
It is more difficult to work with unconscious fears; a person often cannot remember their causes. For example, such a case: the girl was terribly afraid of hoses for watering the garden. It turns out that as a child she loved to water the flowers with a hose. Once, in the grass, as she thought, lay a hose. She took it, and it turned out to be a snake, which hissed at her and greatly frightened the girl. But she did not remember this story until she turned to a psychologist, who put her into a state of hypnosis and restored this episode to her memory.
4. Assess your fear. Use a scale of 0 to 10 where 3 is safe and 4 is life threatening. For example, you are afraid of insects and rated this fear at XNUMX-XNUMX points. It turns out that he does not reach the death threat. Is it worth spending so much energy on it then? Or is it possible to take this fear more calmly?
5. Take an example from those who are not afraid, you can learn from them to overcome fear. Communicate with a person who does not have your fear, and even better with someone who has overcome such fear. With whom you will lead, from that you will type – the popular proverb says. There is also a scientific justification for this: psychologist Albert Bandura put forward and confirmed the theory of social learning, which says that a person, through observation, can learn new things or change old behavior. Even just by watching how someone struggles with fear and overcome it, you will believe that you can overcome it too.
6. After each victory over fear, reward yourself with, for example, a valuable purchase, an hour of walking in nature, going to the theater or cinema, or come up with your own. The reward should be something important to you!
7. Get through the fear. So you will get a real experience of fighting and overcoming fear and as a result gain power over it. The next time you encounter something frightening, you will know that you can handle your emotions. If you find it difficult to go through fear alone, ask for help from a friend who does not share your fear. Let him be your assistant. So, if you are afraid of heights, ask a friend to go up to the roof of the house with you and stand next to you, holding your hand. For a friend it will be a small adventure, but for you it will be an experience of overcoming.
To stop being afraid means to make yourself free, strong and open to something new. Outside the comfort zone (in the fear zone) are new opportunities, powers, and rewards. Life without fear will give you new energy, you will become happier. You have read this article, which means that you feel that only fear separates you from the fulfillment of your innermost desires, and you want to stop being afraid. Conquer fear – you will not regret it!