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Why the child beats the parents and what to do about it
Aggressiveness when a child beats his parents should not be ignored. This behavior can be observed in very young children. And it is very important to control the situation and be ready to channel the baby’s energy in a different direction in time.
Why does the child beat the parents
You shouldn’t assume that the kid is fighting because he doesn’t love you. If this happens to a one-two-year-old child, then most likely he cannot cope with emotions. He does not understand that by bringing down a spatula on his beloved mother or throwing a cube at her, he hurts her. This happens spontaneously and unintentionally.
The child hits the parents without realizing that they are in pain
But there are other reasons for child aggression:
- The kid was forbidden to do something or was not given a toy. He throws out emotions, but does not know how to control them and directs them to parents.
- Children try to attract attention to themselves. If the parents are busy with their own business, the child tries to remind himself of himself in any way. He fights, bites, pinches, not realizing that it hurts.
- The child copies the behavior of adults. If conflicts occur in the family, parents argue and shout, the baby adopts their demeanor.
- The baby is curious and explores the boundaries of what is permitted. He is interested in how his mother will react to his actions, whether she will scold or just laugh.
In each case, you need to understand what caused this behavior of the baby and find an appropriate solution. If you do not intervene in a timely manner, it will be much more difficult to cope with the grown-up bully.
What to do if a child hits parents
Mom is always next to the child, and it is on her that his emotions are most often splashed out. Show the baby that you are in pain, demonstrate resentment, let dad take pity on you. At the same time, repeat every time that it is not good to fight. Do not give the child change and do not punish him. Be persuasive and consistent in your actions. Try one of the following:
- Explain the situation to your child and offer a solution. For example, he wants to watch a cartoon. Say that you understand his desire, but today your eyes are tired, it is better to go for a walk or play, and tomorrow you will watch TV together.
- Talk to him calmly, logically explaining that he was wrong. You can’t solve your problems with fists, but you can tell about them, and your mother will support you.
- Organize energy-intensive games.
- Offer to draw your anger. Let the child depict his feelings on paper, and then together add a picture of light colors.
Do not compare the baby with obedient children and do not reproach. Tell us how it hurts and upsets you. He will surely pity you and hug you.
The older the child becomes, the more often and more persistently it is necessary to explain to him the inadmissibility of aggressive behavior. At the same time, it is important to speak with restraint, calmly. Looking too angry and raised tone will not work and make the situation worse.